The 4 agreement

2021 Book1

大美女Maggie Q 推荐的书,刚好是说的墨西哥的tolec,azetec 我有去过,所以读起来会莫名的亲切。书很短,也当然是鸡汤型的。但是还是有很多受用的地方。里面最打动我的一点就是,我们对外界和他人的容忍度就是对自己评价的映射。

回想起来,好像真的是这样的,原来有朋友调侃,或者开玩笑说我对数学的敏感度不高,hunch 不够,五音不全这之类的,我自己虽然不舒服,但觉得她们说的是对的,就不会为自己发生了。

但这两年,我自己觉得我一直有努力在学习,不管天赋有多少,基本功起码是扎实的,也是堂堂正正,正儿八经的科班出身,有输入,也一直有输出,对自己不懂的也是很真诚的像周围的人请教。当我自己对自己的看法和定义变了的时候。原来的朋友对我的看法也好像变了。偶尔再有一两句说我的时候,我也会有礼貌的回应我的原则就是,不论高低,只论坚持。毕竟,流水不争先,争的是源源不绝。

还有一个我喜欢的点就是,do your best, not any more, nor any less.

这就是中文版棋魂的,不必以卵击石,力所能及已是胜利。
不要太逼自己,over do 不提倡,只是持之以恒的小小入定。

最好,就是要有意识的说话,有的时候会不注意的说 要死了,要死了。

不行,做不好,亏死了,买错了,卖错了,该….
这类词语,真的好好想想,有没有subs 再说。

因为不用听谁的话,你已经很棒啦!!!

以前agreement 都是对别人的,今年就对自己有个agreement. 把力所能及的事做好。不用最好,好就够了。

Sparkling Lines

 

But nobody abuses us more than we abuse ourselves, and it is the Judge, the Victim, and the belief system that make us do this

And the limit of your self-abuse is exactly the limit that you will tolerate from someone else. If someone abuses you a little more than you abuse yourself, you will probably walk away from that person. But if someone abuses you a little less than you abuse yourself, you will probably stay in the relationship and tolerate it endlessly.

In these agreements you say, “This is what I am. This is what I believe. I can do certain things, and some things I cannot do. This is reality, that is fantasy; this is possible, that is impossible.

Be Impeccable with Your Word

All the magic you possess is based on your word.

The word is like a seed, and the human mind is so fertile!

You go against yourself when you judge or blame yourself for anything.

When you are impeccable, you take responsibility for your actions, but you do not judge or blame yourself

Self-rejection is the biggest sin that you commit.

Use white magic, beginning with yourself. Tell yourself how wonderful you are, how great you are. Tell yourself how much you love yourself

even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds.

It is always better to ask questions than to make an assumption, because assumptions set us up for suffering.

If others change, it’s because they want to change, not because you can change them.

If you don’t understand, ask.

Always Do Your Best, no more and no less (棋魂的力所能及)

You are not here to sacrifice your joy or your life. You are here to live, to be happy, and to love.

You do your best because you want to do it, not because you have to do it.

Say no when you want to say no, and yes when you want to say yes. You have the right to be you. You can only be you when you do your best

Awareness is always the first step because if you are not aware, there is nothing you can change

After coming out of the desert, all those demons become angels.

now she has a little more power and courage to try again and again until finally she breaks the agreemen

Repetition makes the master.

I will no longer be the big Judge that goes against myself. I will no longer beat myself up and abuse myself. I will no longer be the Victim

The only reason you suffer is because you choose to suffer

The only reason you are happy is because you choose to be happy

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