book 4: Flow
上次看完心流， 这本书是姐妹篇。很多东西都是重复得， 我看的时候心里很chaotic。 但是每次读书又会找到那小小片刻安宁。相信我可以走下去的。 最重要的还是行动。 我前两天看到说，愿望，行动，成就 不是线性的关系，而是circular 环状的。不一定要有愿望了再行动，没愿望就不动了。 而是也许行动了，就算是把窗户打开把碗洗干净都会产生成就感，从而有更多的愿望，行动…..
Happiness, in fact, is a condition that must be prepared for, cultivated, and defended privately by each person.
Consciousness moment by moment, each person has to achieve it on the basis of his own individual efforts and creativity.
No great improvements in the lot of mankind are possible, until a great change takes place in the fundamental constitution of their modes of thoughts
How we feel about ourselves, the joy we get from living, ultimately depend directly on how the mind filters and interprets everyday experinces
It is best not to expect that shortcuts will do the trick
我问aurthur 怎么锻炼core,他讲的我都知道，他说sorry, no shortcuts.
intentionally ordered information
the information we allow into consciousness becomes extremely important.
the ability to focus attention at will, to be oblivious to distractions, to concentrate for as long as it takes to achieve a goal, and not longer.
at this point she radiates a pure glow of energy .
Focusing it intentionally like a beam of energy, or by diffusing it in desultory, random movements.
we create ourselves by how we invest this energy. Memories, thoughts, and feelings are all shaped by how we use it.
the hierarchy of goals that we have built up, bit by bit, over the years.
we have a system that is going round and round, with no clear causes or effects.
我看过一个寓言， 一支驴对一匹马说， wow,你去西天取经真了不起。马说，我们走的路其实一样多啊，只不过你每天在推磨原地画圈圈，我朝一个方向走而已。
我想这个故事不是说谁值得歌颂，而是提醒我，问自己，我想当马，为一个长期目标努力。还是驴子，每天推推磨其实也挺开心的。但是要清楚自己的选择，而不是漫无目的的going round and round.
Consciousness is not a strictly linear system, but one in which circular causality obtains.
when we choose a goal and invest ourselves in it to the limits of our concentration, whatever we do will be enjoyable.
- task a chance of completing
- concentrate on clear goals & immediate feedback
- remove worries and frustrations
- control over our actions
- a sense of self emerges stronger after the flow
- a sense of the duration of time is altered.
Leibnitz: thumb, third finger, index, fourth, third
enjoyment appears at the boundary between boredom and anxiety, when the challenges are just balanced with the person’s capacity to act
Your energy is flowing very smoothly.
I have succeeded in my goal.
Dance is like therapy. If i m troubled about something, I leave it out of the door as i go in the studio
The freedom to determin the content of consciousness.
unwilling to cope with the ambiguities of life
At best the self of the true believer resembles a crystal: strong and beautifully summetrical, but very slow to grow
It is not skills we actually have that determine how we feel, but the ones we think we have
Poteniality does not imply actuality, and quantity does not translate into quality.
Whenever they reached their goal, they upped the ante, setting increasingly complex challenges for themselves.
intrinsically motivated in their actions, they are not easily disturbed by external threats.
entropy yields to a sense of enjoyable harmony in consciousness
- Set an overall goal + subgoals
- concentrationg One small goal + meaure progress
- develop skills as activity finishes
in learning to pay attention to graceful rhythms and harmonies their whole consciousness would become ordered
It is best to develop a habit early, but it is never too late to do so
The family must be both differentiated and integrated.
without concentration, a complex activity breaks down into chaos
whatever happens is a step either toward or away from that goal
A relaxed, laissez-faire attitude is not a sufficient defense against chaos